Too often these days we are experiencing helicopter parenting in the workplace, and this is a big problem, for everyone including the young people with the said helicopter parents.
According to Wikipedia; A helicopter parent is a parent who pays extremely close attention to a child’s experiences and problems, particularly at educational institutions. They so named because, like helicopters, they “hover overhead”, overseeing every aspect of their child’s life.
These parents are now extending their interests into Australian workplaces, in the form of ringing employers to request parent / employer conferences if their child is unhappy about their Manager, pay, performance management or even feedback!
I might add that these “children” are not really children many are young adults (Millennials & Gen Z’s). Too often we receive calls from parents wanting feedback when their “child” does not get chosen for the job. #sigh
The sad thing is these parents are robbing their children of the very life experiences that will help them to grow up and this leads me to my next very important point.
The impact is that many young people lack the resilience to cope and manage in a fast paced and stressful workplace or job. Many young people feel disempowered, overwhelmed and ill equipped to cope when things don’t go to plan. These few are also responsible in my opinion for much of the Millennial blaming and shaming we see in the media.
So, what’s my advice! All you parents out there, maybe its time you started being parents, and allow your children to experience life instead of expecting Managers to parent your kids because you haven’t done the groundwork. And no – you cannot request to meet with HR about your 28 child’s performance review. It’s not cool.
My hot tip for parents is to encourage their kids to get a job as early as possible! Like 14 and 9 months. Teach them about working hard, and how important it is to get your hands dirty, start at the bottom and do the hours. A bit of hard work never hurt any one and many young people lack work life experience when they enter the workforce and they seriously struggle to adjust. Getting a job early will serve them well, not just in their studies but later in life also!
So parents beware; are you too involved in your child’s life?
Written by Emily Jaksch